Why do not men commit

Oh, I think you men do not commit?

I know for a fact that millions of people waiting for the "special day" too. She would think about it constantly. Talk about it with their friends. Do you dream at work. And the week prior to this special day - she can not wait to happen.

Finally comes! And win or lose, they are just as committed to their favorite football team. And not even start me on the fly. Or car racing.Or ...

And what about her career? How many people have their jobs to marry? They think that this is not a commitment?

If you think about it, people have no problem commitments. The problem is - if you're a woman - how is the man is not a requirement for you?

It is simple. If a man thinks of a subject to the requirement for a woman, she thinks, take pictures and feelings of loss of freedom. And nobody wants to lose their freedom.

Rightly or wrongly - rightly ormisunderstood - Thoughts commitment to a woman he will suffer some sort of pain. And it is often an assessment between the observed pleasure from the experienced pain. Is the reward of sex, companionship, sharing, and oh yes, love ... Value is captured and endured the pain of the inevitable whining and complaining about?

Generally, that is, as a man thinks. Maybe not in exact terms, but I can assure you it is a kind of evaluationlos, weigh the pros and cons of a commitment.

So, what is the solution for you - as a woman looking for a man to commit? Because you certainly would not try to curtail the freedom of the people in your life. They would not complain or whine.

Well, you can just sit and talk to the people concerned. Bring reasons. Use logic - cold, hard logic - the presentation of your case. Exactly how he would try to use logic with you. Convince him that his own interest to makeCommitment.

Use logic, it seems the lipstick does not work ...

It is not expected to work. But you could try. Actually I can only guarantee you it will not work.

No, you would be much better served by your own beliefs and attitudes and feelings and thoughts. Why do you want a commitment of one man?

I know. It is clear. But they do not. Start with your assumptions. What make a commitment of one man, who will? Love?Security? Intimacy? And what does it mean for you to secure a commitment?

"I saw him!"?

Or do you really think trying to better the human species?

If you want to help develop the love itself?

In other words, what agenda you bring to the table? Their way of thinking - your beliefs - the agenda - your feelings - they all come together to form a resonance.

A resonance that others can add to one degree or another.

If you cool and calm and sweet on the outside - but aPot of despair and fear and fear and anger on the inside ... If you are 10% and 90% Frantic calm - you're a resonance, which usually form tantrum.

You can try to hide your true feelings, even of himself. Everybody does. But it still appears in your reply. And resonance determines what happens. Your response determines what happens to you. That is why it is important to check your assumptions. Because it is an important part of yourResonance.

Ideally, you write your true feelings. Get a pen and paper and write at the top of the paper something like: Why I want a commitment. Then just start writing and see what happens.

In order to develop the repressed voice. Denied the emotions - the thoughts and feelings that are not socially acceptable, but are still available. Because if you are looking for a commitment of one man - and it is not the case - there is a very exact reason why nothappens.

And if you think the reason is because the man is a coward or the man or the man is - you just have given away your power. So nothing will change.

Probably the reason why you're frustrated because the oppressed in your voice ... make that much of your reply.

The key is to make contact with the denial of the thoughts and feelings and beliefs and your attitudes. Leave them on the table. Let them speak. (Private - for you!)Sprinkle your energy, so they stop managing your life and you, what you say you do not want.

Moreover, real with yourself. Loving you enough to honor and comply with the unpleasant feelings. Let them come, and let them express and release leave. Nobody else has to know.

Then you are really the person who would commit a great man.

As the saying goes: A man wants to be a woman because she makes him feel good. OfTheir healing repressed emotions and so dim that you tortured voice to - you're the wife, of course, brings a commitment of one man.

As a requirement you must first be achieved. And you proved that by the time to understand themselves better.

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